| | "I said this as innocently has a vicar, not wanting to stymie things by seeming too eager. I'd discovered in life that if you're too eager others seem to get less eager. And if you're less eager it tends to make others more eager. So the more eager I was, the less eager I seemed."
-From the book The Buddha of Suburbia by Hanif Kureishi
I have never really thought about this much, but it is a general truth in life. Sure, it won't apply 100% of the time, but there does seem to be something in humanity that gets suspicious if someone is eager and that suspicion breeds a desire to squelch it. Even if it is a person we love or care about, the moment they get too eager about something we take a step back and try to reevaluate the situation. We try to figure out if we are being taken advantage of in some way... are we missing something that the other person comprehended?
And then this aversion we seem to have toward eagerness can be used as a manipulative tool, either consciously or not. I remember either someone I read about or knew many years ago who used that to his advantage with females. If he was in a friendship where he was seen as an "older brother" whom the female in question wouldn't even dream of dating, he would pull away and distance himself from her, thus creating (according to him), an increasing desire. Now, I suspect this was not one of my friends because that sounds too maniacle
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